Unethical? Manipulative? Behaviorist?
Why You Deserve Better Than Behavioral Tricks
Words change. Sometimes they evolve beyond their broken past.
Hacker once meant criminal. Now it means creative problem-solver. Viral once meant disease. Now it means positive engagement. Aggressive once meant hostile. In business, it became assertive. Artificial once meant fake. Now it means sophisticated.
The word influence is next.
For too long, it's carried the weight of manipulation, pressure, and force. But something is shifting.
The old influence model is breaking down.
You can feel it happening. The harder people try to convince, the more people resist. The more data they present, the less minds change. The stronger their arguments, the quieter the rooms become.
You already know this.
People don't change their minds because you explained better. They change their minds because something shifted inside their own thinking.
You've seen it happen. The moment when someone stops arguing and starts considering. When their posture changes. When they lean forward instead of back. When they start finishing your sentences - but with their own words.
That moment didn't happen because you got more persuasive. It happened because they got more ready.
The brain rejects pressure but welcomes preparation. People resist forced ideas but embrace discovered ones.
Architecture matters more than argument.
Invisible Influence is that architecture. AI made this undeniable.
Machines can now generate perfect arguments, flawless logic, and compelling presentations. But they cannot read the room. They cannot sense when someone's brain, your brain, is ready to receive an idea. They cannot feel the moment when resistance dissolves into curiosity when you gleefully explore more about what intrigued you.
That moment is purely human. And it's where real influence lives.
Every professional discovers this. Eventually.
The conversations that matter most aren't won by argument. They're won by architecture. By how you structure the thinking, not what you think about.
The pattern, the Glide Path, is always the same…
Frame the space. Surface what they already sense. Introduce what they haven't considered. Let them connect the pieces.
Do this well, and they adopt your idea as if it were theirs all along. Because in that moment, it is.
You've probably felt this tension building yourself. The nagging sense that you shouldn't have to convince people of good ideas or ‘how it should be.’ The frustration when logic doesn't land. The quiet rebellion against having to "sell" your thinking to others who should simply see what you see.
“Why don’t they get this?!” said everyone, sometimes.
That tension is recognition, not weakness. Your brain knows there's a better way.
Welcome. This isn't the old influence. This is what influence becomes.
Not manipulation, but preparation.
Not pressure, but respect.
Not force, but invitation.
This is already happening in meetings where the best leaders ask questions instead of give answers. In negotiations where the most skilled listen more than they speak. In sales conversations where the top performers help people buy rather than sell to them.
The inevitability of it all is that professionals who learn to prepare minds instead of pressuring them will dominate. Those who cling to behavioral persuasion will find themselves increasingly irrelevant. Again, this isn't opinion. This is the direction of human communication in an AI-saturated world.
You're reading this because you already feel this shift.
From convincing to preparing.
From pushing to allowing.
From selling to serving.
Influence isn't broken. It's evolving.
If you're ready to evolve with it, adopt Invisible Influence, not as a set of techniques to master, but as a way of thinking that honors both your goals and their choice.
The future belongs to those who prepare minds, not those who pressure them.
Keep it cognitive.





Yes!!! So much wisdom in this one note. Instead of the ‘print’ button I thought Substack needed, we need a ‘frame this’ button. Will be re-reading this in about 20 seconds.
Note that I completed the form for the pre-sale of the book but have not yet received the email. Is the auto responder at work today? 🥸